For introverts, starting conversations can be an intimidating prospect. Because they prefer the comfort of familiar social circles and often thrive in deeper, one-on-one interactions, many introverts may shy away from taking the first step in an engagement and prefer to be introduced by others. However, the ability to initiate conversations can be profoundly empowering for introverts. Initiating conversations enables introverts to build valuable connections, share their unique perspectives, and establish themselves as proactive contributors within their teams and professional networks. By taking the initiative in conversations, introverts can cultivate stronger relationships with colleagues and clients, increasing their influence and fostering a collaborative environment where their insights are valued.
In this two-part blog post series, we are going to look at 9 tips for striking up conversations as an introvert.
Tip #1: Prepare Ahead.
Take a moment to collect yourself before entering the room or engaging in the social situation; once you’ve entered the room start a conversation as soon as you can to help avoid over analyzing the situation and freezing up.
If you know who you will be talking with in advance, do some research on the attendees or topics that might be discussed. Having some background knowledge can give you confidence and help you initiate conversations. “I heard you really enjoy X. How did you get into that?”
Think about a relevant topic that you both might be interested in, such as the event you're attending, recent industry news, or a presentation you both just saw.
Tip #2: Look at the larger purpose in small talk.
Small talk serves an important purpose - it helps build the foundation for authentic conversations and deeper relationships down the road. Think of small talk as the light appetizer before the main course, and approach it with renewed purpose.
Tip #3. Prepare your introduction.
Have a few icebreakers or conversation starters in mind. These could be simple questions about the event, a relevant topic in your industry, or a compliment about something you genuinely appreciate. (See potential conversation starters below).
Instead of simply introducing yourself with your name and job description, consider introducing yourself by what you do in the company, which can help people get a better feel for who you are and what you do. Instead of saying, “Hi, I’m Sam and I am an administrative assistant” you could say, “Hi, I’m Sam and I help facilitate back office operations.”
It's helpful to have some key points or phrases ready that you can build upon. Let your curiosity and professional interests guide you as you ask questions.
See the next blog post in this series here.
Chew On This:
What situations do you commonly encounter where it would be beneficial for you to initiate conversation?